How To Deal With Infidelity

How To Deal With Infidelity

How To Deal With Infidelity

How To Deal With Infidelity

How To Deal With Infidelity

In this blog, I'm going to finally reveal how to deal with Infidelity.

If your partner has cheated on you, then this blog is definitely worth reading.

I'm going to explain exactly what happens to your brain, and how your brain prevents you from moving on after an affair.

How Your Brian Works

The first thing you need to understand is that, there are four key areas that are at play within your brain when you've experienced the traumatic impact of an affair.

The first one is what we call the Thalamus.

The second one is called the Amygdala.

The third one is called the Hippocampus and the fourth is called the Prefrontal Cortex.

5 Senses

So when you found out that your partner had cheating on you, all of that information came in from your main senses-- your sight, smell, taste, touch and sound.

It comes into the Thalamus but because it's was so traumatic when you found out about it, your Amygdala, which is like your security guard in your brain, kicks in and extracts all that information, therefore preventing it from moving into your prefrontal cortex.

Then, because it's so traumatic your Amygdala acts like a source of a safety mechanism to the rest of your brain.

It's sort of short circuits and prevents all the information from moving into the Hippocampus.

An integration barrier comes up, for example like a short circuiting when a plug goes in your house, it shuts all the electric off to prevent further damage.

Your Amygdala does the same, prevents all that nasty information from damaging other parts of your brain.

So all the nasty memories and everything to do with the affair is stuck and stored in your Amygdala.

Therefore, anything that reminds you of the affair your Amygdala kicks off. It thinks that that's going to happen again.

But I help people to process traumatic events like affairs, I do this by using a technique is called emotional processing.

It enables you to process all the nasty information from you Amygdala through to your Hippocampus and then into your Prefrontal Cortex.

This allows you to start to make cognitive rational decisions again. It allows you to maybe decide whether you want to work on your relationship or if you should call it a day.

It allows you to take back control of your emotions so that you can start to recover from the affair.

So there you have it, a short blog on how to deal with infidelity.

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Dear Friend, my name is Stephen Boylan. I'm an author, relationship counsellor, client acquisition specialist and I'm the founder of the Counsellors Directory. It's my mission and passion to help people to transform their relationships, businesses and life. I look forward to help you. Kind Regards Stephen